In real life we have this freedom to decide who we want to build relationships with. Naturally we become more attracted to some people because what they say is interesting, how they live is inspiring or just the energy they send out seems attractive. We can always decide if we want to stay in a particular relationship, withdraw from it for various reasons or simply keep it neutral.
How we build relationships in every day life
Every single day we naturally meet people, get together with them, we talk to them, we spend our time with them. Others we simply pass by in the street. We meet people of different ages, different personalities, different races, different occupations, different social status… We live with them; they live around us because we are all part of the same world, part of a wonderful collage of similarities and differences. Each of us is unique and this way the world is more beautiful, more interesting. Each person can add their unique element to the world. It’s easier to build positive relationships when you feel equal, when you feel worthy, special and unique. When you feel like being partners with others. You self-confidence guides you and you experience no fear of being rejected. With your open heart you welcome everything that comes.
Do schools really support children’ social skills?
However, building relationships in a traditional schooling environment is too often taken for granted. This is because on the surface it may seem that children will have plenty opportunities to play with others simply because by definition there are already many children there. And the assumption is that the relationships will build themselves. However, this environment is actually artificial as most classmates are usually of the same age. This never happens is a real life though. The competition and pressure put on school children in order to achieve certain academic results within particular timeframes make it even more difficult to build meaningful relationships, maintain and explore them in a real life context.
Home Schooling and Social Skills
Home schooled children, on the other hand, are free from competition, peer pressure and social beliefs. This makes them feel more secure and helps them decide what kind of relationships they are really looking for. It is easier for them to say “no” and to say “yes” whenever they mean it. It is much easier to build meaningful relationships based on a deep joyful need of your heart. And such relationships are honest because there is no more need to look for friends only to be accepted, to feel worthy, to feel better or not to feel lonely. It is easier to understand what we really want from others and what we have to offer. It is easier to socialise because you do it naturally and there are plenty opportunities to meet people everywhere! This way children learn how to build relationships not only with other children but also adults.
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